When encountering a soulmate we are often able to recognize certain signs. In my case, the first sign I noticed was when I was in a crowded room. You see, there was a particular person who, of course, now I know is my soulmate. He caught my eye immediately. This was the first night I had met him and felt an instant, but odd connection with him.

It was a feeling that seemed to make me feel uneasy but relaxed at the same time. Despite the crowd of people, we both appeared to take notice of the other. We both ignored the exchanges, but kept it in mind.

The second sign was whenever I visited his home, which was when there were social gatherings, I noticed he was paying particular attention to me. I’d be in one room and he’d be in another, and by sensing it, he’d come into the same room I was in with friends. He’d take one look at me and be quickly entranced (this I realized a few years later). The moment had deep meaning to him.

I had been seeing him around more often after those two encounters but strictly as a distant friend. He, it seemed, was always watching me, but I only barely noticed. Years later we formed a platonic friendship, and the signs became more frequent. I began to see and experience a lot more about him and the relationship.

We could finish the other partner’s sentences, speak without words, and share an incredible, spiritual bond. Without much physical contact, we were able to share a language only we could understand. The experience has been utterly amazing.

Below, are the 10 signs I experienced with my soulmate.

1. A feeling of knowing
2. Feeling of contentment
3. Finishing sentences
4. Spiritual connection
5. Language of love
6. Deep friendship
7. Speak without words
8. Same dreams, needs, desires
9. Complete loyalty
10. Open-minded

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A giggly game of Trivial Pursuit and a tall margarita. After nine years of marriage, that is how my husband and I last expressed our love for one another.

It is important to say I Love You with both passion and frequency. And we can say it not only with our words but with our actions, with our facial expressions and body language, even with our thoughts. Lasting intimacy comes from an everyday appreciation and a reverence for the daily moments we spend in the company of one another.

Here are 50 simple ways you can demonstrate the depth of your love. (I have used the words ‘he’ and ’she’ interchangeably here. The following ideas are not gender specific.)

1. Write down 50 favorite memories of your life spent together so far. Invite your partner to add to the list, as well as to share special ideas for the future.
2. Leave a message on her voicemail with a silly, romantic poem. (Roses are red, violets are blue…)
3. Make a CD featuring the songs that have been important in your relationship. Slip it into the CD player of her car.
4. Bring homemade cookies or brownies to his office with a simple love note.
   
5. Spoon.
6. Surprise her with some bath salts and her favorite magazine. Then take the kids out of the house for the evening so she can enjoy some time alone.
7. Stash a love note in his shoe.
8. Spend some time talking about all the goals you have been able to accomplish during your time as a couple. Reflecting on the things that you have been able to do with the strength of the other, including the challenges, can really help you to remember and to celebrate the depth of your relationship and how you have supported one another through it all.
9. Serve her breakfast in bed.
10. Give him some time one Saturday to do something he enjoys but rarely takes the time for.
11. Buy her luxurious new silk pajamas that will make her feel treasured and cherished each time she puts them on.
12. Create a special sign (such as a specific hand gesture) that means I Love You, just between the two of you.
13. Listen without interrupting.
14. Give her a few minutes of time alone when she first gets home from work. Sometimes, we each need a bit of time to process the transition from work life to family life.
15. Watch a sporting event together.
16. Place a single daisy on her windshield.
17. Kiss.
18. Surprise him by purchasing his favorite DVD or the latest CD of his favorite vocal artist.
19. Talk lovingly about your partner to others, and avoid criticizing your mate to your friends or family. Even if your words never make it back to your partner, the tension and negative energy will eventually wedge its way between you.
20. Take a walk together.
21. Rub his back.
22. Dance to your favorite song.
23. Recreate your first date.
24. Light candles at dinnertime.
25. Write a love note and slip it under his pillow.
26. Send a romantic text message.
27. Send flowers, just because.
28. Keep a scrapbook of your love, from first meeting through courtship, through marriage. Write a few journal entries about how your love for one another has evolved as you have grown together, and the new kinds of energy each new phase of your relationship has created.
29. Take him out to lunch.
30. Make her coffee so it is ready when she gets up.
31. Jot down 20 things you love about him and slip it under his dinner plate.
32. Cook her favorite breakfast.
33. Choose a book you both will enjoy, and read it aloud together.
34. Rent a romantic movie.
35. Slip a Hershey’s Kiss and a Hershey’s Hug into her coat pocket.
36. Write about the feelings you felt when you first met your mate. Write about the first time you knew you were in love.
37. Celebrate special days in your relationship with unique traditions and rituals.
38. Have you been holding a grudge against your partner? Today, forgive it and move on. Witness how much power the act of forgiveness injects into your relationship.
39. Rub her feet.
40. Find creative places to write I Love You: in whipped cream on a slice of pie, carved into the side of an apple, in the steam on the bathroom mirror.
41. Bring flowers to her in the middle of the day.
42. Spend a few minutes together in bed each morning.
43. Call his mother and father and thank them for creating such a wonderful son.
44. Do a chore that is typically reserved for him.
45. Tell her she looks amazing.
46. Write her a love letter and mail it.
47. If she has had a rough day at work, bring home her favorite take out and a bottle of wine.
48. Create a marquis on your screensaver that declares your love.
49. Choose your favorite photo of the two of you as a couple and frame two copies: one for each of you to take to work.
50. Play a board game or a game of cards. (Margaritas optional.)

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I have been with my girlfriend for the last six years and our relationship never gets boring. At least once a week I buy my girlfriend flowers. Usually I buy a bouquet of roses. She loves roses and I love giving them to her. I love seeing the excitement on her face every time she receives my gift. She is always telling me that I am so thoughtful.

When we go out, I always hold open the door for my girlfriend. The same goes for the car door. I open and shut the door for her. In the morning I always wake my girlfriend up with coffee in bed. She loves it.

I know most guys will not go this far for their girlfriends. My male friends think I am crazy. My female co-workers think I am amazing. They always tell me that they wished their boyfriends would do it for them. They all tell me that when they started dating, their boyfriends would always open doors and give flowers. But, as the relationship grew their boyfriends at first occasionally forgot and then just stopped unless it was a special occasion like a birthday. A few of them are jealous.

The interesting thing is that a few of my male friends tell me that you must treat a woman with a little coldness. You must show her you are in control. Don’t let her think you are too soft or she will take advantage of you. Well, I think these are all mistaken ideas. Most of my friends who always tell me they know better are not married. They are always with a new girl every time I meet them. I have a friend who in the past six years has been married twice and had five live-in girlfriends. They always leave him. Why? He thinks that being selfish will keep the girls with him. Hopefully, after I show him this short article he will learn not to be so selfish. If he is smart he will at least come to understand that he is doing something wrong.

I love to buy little gifts once or twice a week for my girlfriend. They are not expensive gifts. I always find just some little things that she likes. Most just cost a few dollars. But, by the way she smiles, she looks like she is getting a diamond!

I will try to surprise her with a night out at least once a week. We leave the kids with the grandparents and we will go to dinner then maybe a movie or roller skating and sometimes we go bowling or to the local Borders Book Store. Every now and then I surprise her by taking her for a weekend to the country. We will just start driving without a destination in mind, and when we feel like it we will find a hotel and spend a weekend there. It is fun and always different.

I believe that in relationships as in life, you get what you give. Give respect, caring and love and you will receive it back tenfold. Try a few of these suggestions and you might be pleasantly surprised how well your relationship will improve.

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Everyone makes mistakes when it comes to relationships. Repeating the same mistakes over and over can spell disaster for your relationship’s future. It is always a good idea to stop and evaluate how you are doing every once and awhile. Mistakes can be a powerful teaching experience. Strive to learn from your mistakes. I also like to learn from other couple’s mistakes. This is much wiser than learning through your own trial and error.

Can you relate to these common relationship mistakes?

• Forgetting to say “Thank you” and “I’m sorry.”
• Taking your partner for granted. Not letting them know you appreciate the things they do for you.
• Being petty. Making a big deal out of little things. Nag, nag, nag.

• Always trying to be right. Refusing to lose an argument and becoming mean if you see you’re not going to win.
• Refusing to forgive or forget past hurts or mistakes.
• Forgetting special occasions such as birthdays, anniversaries, Christmas, Valentine’s Day, Mother’s Day or Father’s Day.
• Expecting your partner to think and be like you. Getting aggravated when they are not like you.
• Being chronically late. Making your partner wait for you.
• Not involving your partner in decisions.
• Magnifying your partner’s weaknesses as a way of making yourself feel superior to them.
• Not taking care of yourself. Allowing yourself to get out of shape, worn out and tired.
• Treating your partner wonderfully in public but negatively in private. It’s just a big show for the neighbors.
• Not pulling your weight with the household responsibilities. Sitting around while your partner busts their tail.
• Always putting your children first thus neglecting your partner. Children’s needs are important but they shouldn’t drain the relationship.
• Going to bed angry and refusing to speak to your partner. The silent treatment can be quite loud.
• Not allowing your partner to spend time with their friends or family.
• Putting your best self towards your education or career and giving your partner the leftovers. Why are you working so hard in the first place?
• Threaten to end the relationship when you are angry.

Awareness is the first key towards change. Whether you are making these mistakes or others not mentioned, here are some corrective measures you can take.

1. Always strive to do your best for your partner; even when you are tired or stressed out. Stress is never an excuse to mistreat your partner. Make your relationship a sanctuary for the two of you from the stressors of life.
2. Be determined to succeed as a partner. A strong determination will make up for any lack of skill or experience. If you believe in your relationship, then fight for it. Don’t let minor things come between you. Regret is a terrible thing.
3. Commit yourself to doing whatever it takes to become a great partner. A great partner will always do more for the relationship than a good partner will.
4. Set long term goals for your relationship. This will decrease your short term frustrations. A lot of people become discouraged if they don’t see immediate results. Be patient with yourself and with your partner.
5. Remember that, “You can’t be right and be together.” Don’t waste your time with who is right. Instead strive to do the right thing for your relationship. Sacrifice for the sake of love.
6. Make your partner feel special. Treat them as if they were a King or Queen. Exercise thoughtfulness towards your partner and make kindness a habit. Don’t worry about them becoming a monster. If they abuse the royal treatment, then drag them to therapy.

If there have been mistakes, forgive yourself and your partner as well. Then strive to correct the problems. As long as you are together, there will be mistakes. Let your mistakes teach and guide you towards becoming a great partner.

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Before you atempt to bring back a lost mate, you have to understand why people leave and what makes people stay.

1. Relationships are like a “mutual filling of needs.”

When you first fall in love, ask yourself why you fell in love. According to Dr Rob, falling in love and getting into a relationship is like a “mutual filling of needs.” Whether you realize it or not, you go into a relationship and choose to be with a person because you feel that your partner is fulfilling some of your emotional needs.

You feel good to be around with him/her.

You have new things to share with each other.

You feel you can learn something from your partner, whether it’s to advance spiritually or to grow as a person.

You feel empowered whenever you can fulfill your partner’s needs and wants or are able to contribute to his/her growth as a human or well-being (the craving for power and recognition).

Now, step back and think from your partner’s point of view. He or she is experiencing one or more of the above, just like YOU, as a human.

A partner leaves when he or she loses any one or more of the above with you. A partner also leaves for someone else because he or she can get one or more of the above from the other person.

If you want your partner to stay, or if you want to keep your partner, think about what you can do or change to save your relationship. Don’t come and tell me you cannot change because of habits or whatever. If you cannot change and learn to make use of your creative mechanism within, your external world cannot change for you either.

2. If people don’t feel important, they are not motivated to stay.

Let your partner know often enough that they are valued and loved, but no strings attached.

If people don’t feel important, they are not motivated to stay. No one wants to be a commodity, easily replaced by someone off the street. If they are regarded as expendable, they will leave for someone where they feel appreciated.

Some of my readers are so fearful of making the connection with their partner again that they hold back, again and again. The trick here is you have to get out there and make the connection. Call him or her up and say something to show that you care. Date him or her. It doesn’t matter if you are being rejected or getting a negative response. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you or that you are lousy. The most important thing is you have tried. And if you are getting negative responses, you go back to step one and check yourself again.

If you fail faster, you’ll discover a couple of winning strategies!

And this is the type of attitude and mindset all succesful people have in common.

3. Understand what your partner wants.

Your parnter is often a reflection of WHO YOU ARE and where you are at, so I urge you to try and observe and study yourself and your partner.

Being human beings, we are always looking for opportunities for advancement. People, including you or your partner, want to learn, to sharpen our skills, or learn new ones. When we go into a relationship or marriage there is always someting that we want to learn out of it. If we are able to grow and develop as a human being in this relationship we want to keep it and stay in it for as long as we can.

There is no reason why anyone would want to walk out of a relationship if this want is being fulfilled. This is why it is important you maintain healthy social life and active lifestyle so that you are constantly learning new things and having new experiences to share with your loved ones!

This is why experts encourage you to never stop dating and having fun in your relationship life!

And this is also why YOU have to allow the opportunity for your partner to find growth opportunities with you. Give him or her the freedom to learn, grow, and advance spiritually as a human being.

Help him/her grow.

4. People really do want to know that they do a good job in their relationship.

This applies to both YOU yourself and your partner! (Note: this is a want!)

Understanding this, you would realize that when people are frustrated by too many rules, a not-so-understanding-and-appreciative partner, and red tape in a relationship, they’ll want to look elsewhere to breath. Or, they’ll gravitate towards someone else who can make them feel appreciated.

And you wouldn’t want this to happen!

To help your partner stay in the relationship or marriage, give them the care and understanding they deserve. Also, try to understand and realize what it is that your partner seeks from the relationship. Don’t ever try to ask your mate what it is they want. At times, they’ll even find it hard to answer you. They might respond with things like, “I don’t know what I want,” or ”I don’t know who I am,” etc. etc.

Study all the people around you. Observe them. Ask yourself why you are behaving the way you are. Why is your mate behaving and thinking the way he/she is.

I guarantee you that you’ll learn more about yourself and your mate than you’ll learn in school and from textbooks. In schools, they don’t even teach this stuff!

5. People want to do something meaningful in their work and their lives!

Many people mistakenly think that once they go into a relationship with their partners, they can dictate how their partners live their lives.

This is not true love.

All of us, including you and your partner, want to do something meaningful in their work and lives today. We are constantly looking for ways to make a difference, either for ourselves, for other people or for our loved ones!

And yes, this is a need. It is that which makes us feel alive as a human.

For many women, they define their relationships as the most meaningful work in life. But women, remember that this is not true for most men. Men might define something else as their meaningful work in life and you have to work around looking after your needs and his needs as well. The same goes for men.

Don’t dictate how your mate is going to live his/her life. At times, they need to go through certain aspects of life and circumstances to learn powerful lessons. They might meet with certain obstacles and difficulties that may directly or indirectly affect his/her relationship with you.

What you can do is to offer your support, care and understanding.

Cucan Pemo is author of Bring Back the Love of Your Life!, a potent 4-step strategy which always works, no matter what type of relationship you are involved in, no matter how difficult or hopeless your situation appears. Free details.

Has the passion gone out of your relationship? Is it bordering on being boring and mundane?

It need not be. Heck it should not be.

Unfortunately modern life can and does take its toll on our love life.

Relationships need to be injected with new energy, just as anything else worthwhile in your life. This does not have to be difficult or complicated. A few simple tactics can and will make all the difference.

The problem is, most people either have no clue what these tactics are, or worse still, that they can actually do anything about the state of their relationship.

You need to be aware that like anything in life, the success of your relationship depends primarily on two things.

1. The information and knowledge that you focus on.
2. The associations with others surrounding you.

The first one is best managed by having an overall positive outlook on your relationship, your partner’s qualities and your life in general. Try to find the best, see the good, decide to do things for the good of the relationship, not you as an individual at all times.

This alone will make a huge difference to the overall vibe of your relationship. With any action you take, always ask yourself, is this the best for the relationship? Not am I right, is he wrong. But, is this the best for US?

The second situation is sometimes a little more tricky due to your family members being who they are. Oftentimes, our families are not the most nurturing of people for the health of your relationship. If this is the case, you need to limit contact to those people to the absolute minimum, and if possible, see them only at family functions, where they are unable to corner and overwhelm you. Always stand as a couple towards them.

Your friends should be chosen to nurture and grow you as a couple. Surrounding yourself with people that have similar values and interests to yourself is very worthwhile. Here the group synergy comes into play. All of you together striving in the same direction is great for the relationship.

So be aware of these external issues, to help grow your relationship.

Once you have the basics in place, it will be so much easier to work on the details of the relationship like passion. You see, real passion can only exist in a real relationship.

Five simple things you can do to stoke up the passion fires:

1. Get a babysitter. Simple, but effective. Organize a babysitter and allow yourself and your partner some one on one time. The key here is to do it. Don’t try to delegate the organizing a babysitter to your partner. Just do it yourself, you taking control to be with your partner is part of the passion raising stakes.

2. When you whisper sweet nothings in your partner’s ear, make them sweet somethings. In other words, do not just say you love them, but specify what you love about them. Find details and specifics, that make them special.

3. When you go out, even for a casual meal, dress to impress. Make them feel as special as if you were just starting to date. Let them know they are still the one.

4. Break the routine. Instead of her cooking and you taking out the trash, you cook and take out the trash some nights. Run a hot bath for them, add some bath oil, light a candle, put on some music, and let them soak and enjoy it. Get him a beer and put the TV on the game, and then let him watch it.

5. Have fun. This is maybe the most important thing to watch out for. Make your experiences together fun. Enjoy each other’s company. Do things that make you laugh together. Do these as often as possible, make fun a priority.

These simple things can make a huge difference. Just try one or two, it really is not hard and is enjoyable.

Remember to keep on loving.

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Someone asked me, “Cucan, is it possible for us to go back to the way we were; that things will be the same as it was initially when we first met, or when we first fell in love?”

My answer is, you can’t fall in love forever! One day you will fall out of it. In fact, change is the only constant in this world. Things can’t stay the same all the time.

Because of change, life is forever beatiful and spontaneous!

But because of your faith, you can stay together till the end of time.

To keep your partner in the relationship with you, what you can do is to learn how to get out of fights and disagreements as quickly as possible.

1. Be aware of the times when you assert yourself too strongly.

Try to catch yourself and prevent the urge to question his whereabouts, her hairstyle, his not spending time with the babies, her not behaving in the way you want in front of your friends, etc.

Understand that you can fall into the trap of wanting to see your partner as how you want hm or her to be, not how he or she wants his or her life to be.

2. Understand that when we feel hurt, or feel offended, the feeling is our response.

One morning you could go to work feeling miserable, or with your self-confidence shaken because of some adverse experience.

Your partner comes by and gives you a hug, and you feel good about yourself.

But not today. Today you are suffering tension from self-doubt, anxiety and insecurity. You take your partner’s action the wrong way, become offended. This is when quarrels occurs, breakups happen.

So, remember this: We are injured and hurt emotionally, not so much by other people or what they say or don’t say, but by our own attitude and our own response.

3. Remind yourself that you have the power to be able to pause.

Be willing to see the truth, select an appropriate response, thereby CHOOSING the direction your relationship with your loved one will go.

Remember this: No one reacts to “things as they are,” but to his own mental images or OPINIONS of what is happening.

Most of the time your partner’s reaction or action is not taken to frustrate or disappoint you, but because he (she) “understands” and interprets the situation differently from you.

Always ask yourself this question: “Why is he (she) acting the way he (she) does?”

4. Don’t add your own opinions to facts.

Fact: Your wife asks for more space and freedom from you. Opinion: She does not care about our relationship anymore.

Fact: Your boyfriend orders the food he likes. Opinion: He never thinks of what I would like to eat today.

Fact: Your husband throws his clothes onto the bed after work. Opinion: He does this to purposely irritate me.

You kick up a fuss. Most likely other unrelated stuff will be brought in and a storm will begin.

Ask yourself, are you reacting to your own opinions or to facts?

5. Train youself to always possess a feeling of constructive influence over your partner through your own personality.

Many people feel themselves as so incapable and lousy that they can’t seem able to resolve a fight or quarrel with their partner.

So what do they do? They continue to fight, and they continue to quarrel.

Just remind yourself that two people can look at the same thing differently. If you catch yourself arguing for something not important at all, decide to walk away from it at once! Decide that it is just not worth it to spoil a wonderful relationship over a minor issue.

Remember, being in a relationship is not “never fight with my boyfriend,” nor is it “never argue with my wife.”

It’s how quickly you can snap out of a disturbing situation.

Cucan Pemo is author of Bring Back the Love of Your Life!, a potent 4-step strategy which always works, no matter what type of relationship you are involved in, no matter how difficult or hopeless your situation appears. Free details.

One of the most common complaints I get from my clients — men and women — is that they somehow tend to attract repeat hurts, failed relationships and sometimes abuse. On the other hand, good people seem to run away from them.

Tragically, this is the common experience of most single people. When I first started out as an attraction and dating coach, I was always puzzled as to why this is so. But over the years, I have found some common characteristics across gender, education levels and people of all races, ages and walks of life.

Regardless of how resistant to sexual pressure you really are, a person who craves love gives the impression that s/he is vulnerable to manipulation. If you lack in sexual confidence, are overly anxious and susceptible to depression, always reacting in a defensive manner, eager to please or always trying to grab attention, angry at the world or look sad because you have not had much love in your life, others will look at you and see your desperation and vulnerability. You will attract men and women who’ll initially treat you tenderly and kindly and flatter you with attention and “fake” affection but only until they are sure that you’re hooked, then they treat you however they wish. And because you are so scared of losing the object of your admiration (you fear you may never find another person to love you) you find it hard to resist the urge to try to do anything possible to hold on to that person. But nothing you do seems to work.

Maybe you’ve read or heard that craving love doesn’t help you attract it so you get into relationships and try to play hard to get. But your passive desperation comes out in how you react to other people’s words and actions. Someone you know or are attracted to may say something about relationships in general or they are just expressing themselves, and you feel like you’ve been personally attacked.

Tragically large numbers of people craving love and lacking in self-esteem mistakenly think that it is because they are not blessed with great looks that the right people find them undesirable. This is most certainly not so. The thought is so obviously incorrect because there is evidence of people we might not consider even remotely good-looking by society’s standards who are happily married and living a fulfilled life.

To be able to attract the right people, a man or woman craving love and lacking in self-esteem needs far superior dating skills than most. In addition to the pressures all single people have, you will find dating more challenging than most people find it because you have a history of having done everything possible to find and keep love and still failed. Your past tragedies cause you to lose hope that you could ever successfully attract the right person. You may even feel that any attempt to find love will be a futile waste of effort.

If you are sincerely interested in attracting love in your life I suggest you start by asking yourself how is it that you attract the same kinds of people over and over again? When you get into a relationship or if you are already in one, ask the person why they were attracted to you in the first place. You may be surprised. Ask your close friends how you come across to strangers. And be willing to listen to some hard facts that may be painful to admit. What does your personal image, dress and posture say about you? Are you a sloppy dresser or keen dresser hiding behind low self esteem? Do your words say one thing and your body language completely something different? All these things and many more unwittingly reveal more information about you than you are aware of or you intend to. Knowing why the wrong sort of people might be attracted to you and you to them can be a relief. You can change your life by changing your thoughts and actions.

When someone sees you as happy, confident and relatively content, they’ll assume you are quite choosy as to who you relate to and how far you would go. They’ll assume you have none of the desperation that pressures some singles to compromise who they are to get the love they crave. You find that people who may be intent on hurting you, just playing you on or do not know how to be in an intimate loving relationship keep away because your energy makes them feel uncomfortable around you. Other happy, confident and relatively content people find you more their speed.

My website has lots more advice on the ingenuity of creating the “click” with the opposite sex. Once you can identify what it is about you that promises enjoyment, excitement, arousal and nurturance or some reward related to personal expansion, you’ll have found the secret of creating a connection that will make both of you feel loved, wanted, desired and fulfilled.

Christine Akiteng, Sexual Confidence/Dating Coach and author of The Art Of Seducing Out Of Fullness™ ebook is internationally renowned for her unique and genuinely insightful outlook to what love is really about, what is there to learn about who we really are and what we can expect from our sexual relations. Her very powerful and practical “Fullness Approach™” to dating and relationships and strong emphasis on “you don’t need to attract many men/women, just the RIGHT ONE” has helped many single men and women develop greater capacity to attract the RIGHT man or woman and create fulfilling relationships… Visit Christine’s website.

If you are in a relationship right now, or are thinking of going into one, there are 3 very important tips you should know and questions you should ask yourself before you ever get yourself into a relationship. This could save you from a lot of heartache and pain when you are involved in a love relationship.

1. Your lover does not owe you your happiness, peace or joy.

Happiness is a state of mind we choose to have. All of your happiness, and all of your suffering, are created by you and they do not come from outside of you, or from others. Before you go into any type of relationship, ask yourself these questions: “Do I really, really, really know how to walk away from disappointment and fear? Will I be able to find the person that I am now even after I go into this relationship and begin a new way of life?” In short, you should not be dependent on your partner on your emotional needs. You yourself are responsible for your own feelings and creating positive experiences for both your partner and you whenever you are together.

2. Love your partner for who they are.

No one in this world is perfect. One day you will find your partner doing certain things or saying certain things that will hurt you, disappoint you or anger you. Before you go into any type of relationship, you have to ask yourself: “Will I be able to love my partner for who they are? If I am unhappy or angry with something they have said or done, will I be able to recognize my unhappiness or anger as against their speech, actions and behavior, and not against their persons?”

3. Will I be able to love myself as much as I love my partner?

If you cannot love yourself, how are you going to give love to another? This is a mistake most people make when they go into a relationship. They become over-obsessive with what they can give to their partners and what they can do for their partners. To ensure a fulfilling relationship, you have to learn to take care of your own needs as well. A true partner or lover is one who will make sure that you do not become too dependent on them. You are responsible for your own feelings and your own emotional needs too. You are a beautiful being. So, take care of yourself, love yourself, treat yourself to all the good things in life too, and do the same to your partner. Very soon you will find true love always coming your way without any effort on your part!

As always, if you are encountering problems in your relationship, try to dissolve all of your problems in love. And you’ll be sure you are on your way to a peaceful and fulfilling relationship!

Cucan Pemo is author of Bring Back the Love of Your Life!, a potent 4-step strategy which always works, no matter what type of relationship you are involved in, no matter how difficult or hopeless your situation appears. Free details.