Mistakes Men Make When Online Dating

BY JASON KING

The mistakes men make when online dating are spoiling their chances dramatically. Men already outnumber women by 2 to 1 so they need every advantage they can get. With the way some men approach online dating it shouldn’t be too hard to make more of an impression than the competition.

First mistake men make is with their online dating photo. Some don’t even have one. This is the biggest mistake you can make. Everyone should have a photo on their profile. Admittedly women don’t put as much emphasis on looks as much as men but it’s nice to see what someone looks like before they’re contacted. If you don’t have a photo on your profile it will just get ignored. Plus it looks suspicious.

When you do upload a photo make sure it’s a close up and clear one. So many men put up one with themselves so far away from the camera it’s impossible to see what they look like. If women have to use their imagination about your looks they will only get disappointed when you eventually meet them. Also never put a photo on your profile of you naked. A few men still do this, and it is not the way to attract a single woman online. This will only be socially accepted on an adult online dating service where they expect it to happen.

Being negative in your online dating profile is something you shouldn’t do. Some men go on about their ex-girlfriends, and the things they didn’t like about them. No one wants to hear about anyone’s ex-girlfriends, and especially anything negative. That will not get you emailed or have any of your emails replied to. Single women want to read positive, active things. They want to read something that makes them want to get to know you better. Be positive, tell them about your goals in life. This will give them some idea of a future with you, and put a picture in their mind. This is how women think, it’s not just about getting that first date.

Don’t make a list of the type of women you don’t want contacting you. This will probably make you unapproachable. If you have a preference then say the things you do like in women. Tell them you want someone who looks after her body if you want a slim girlfriend.

Put as much detail in your profile as you can. It doesn’t have to be a novel just don’t leave any questions unanswered. If you have an empty profile like a lot of men do then no one will ever contact you. Women like to read about men first so give them something to read.

Don’t expect a free ride. If you’re attracted to some of the single women, pay for a month’s subscription, and send them an email. So many men send pre-written flirts to about 30 women and then wonder why they’re not getting any responses. Women like that personal touch. With an e-ail you can mention things that you liked in their profile. They will tell straight away that you haven’t put any effort in and you’re too tight to pay for 1 month’s subscription. If you can’t pay for that how will they expect you to wine and dine them?

Never start getting possessive online. If you haven’t seen someone you have been communicating with for a few days don’t question where she has been. Most women still have a life away from an online dating service so allow them that privacy.

Acting like a creep or a stalker is a definite no-no. If a woman hasn’t answered your email then move on to someone else. Keep sending the same woman an email will not make her want to date you any more than she does already.

If you can stay away from these mistakes men make when online dating you will have a much higher strike rate when it comes to getting replies, and getting that first date.

Jason King writes for Online Dating Reviews.