BY CLAIRE BRENT
Oh! The twisty, tilted turmoil of the Internet! The temptation and trust that must go into balancing a physical relationship with someone special and the online effect of anonymity and desire! The test of a manâ€™s veracity. The relentlessness of a sultan. The gusty, surreptitious design of an Internet woven so thick with torrid love affairs and audaciously bold moves.
Yes, the Internet is a hotbed for seedy activity, infidelity and curiosity fulfilled. The temptation to get online and meet someone newÂ â€” someone anonymous and without any strings attached whatsoeverÂ â€” can become so great for some partners that they stray from the bonds of the physical relationship into the uncharted territories of an online affair.
Thousands of people have online affairs each year. These affairs occur over a flirtatious spat in a chat room. Or they occur when one partner proactively searches through a sea of online profiles until he or she find that one person that he begins to date offline. Online affairs take many forms and can lead to many break-ups once discovered. Thereâ€™s no clean way, after all, of balancing two special people in your life.
If you suspect that your partner could be guilty of having an online relationship, then it is vital to your mental well being and the future of the relationship that you uncover the truth, however daunting the task may be. Here are some simple steps to help you bring the truth to light.
1. Ask him or her. Chances are good that you have come to know your partner on a very intimate level. Therefore, if you have reason to suspect that he or she is having an affair, you will likely be right. Or else, youâ€™re paranoid. Take a chance; come out and ask pointblank if your partner is having an affair online. If he or she balks at your question and demands an explanation, then feel free to offer one. Youâ€™re either right or wrong and your partnerâ€™s answer will let you know almost immediately which you are.
2. Pop in for a surprise visit. When your mate is on his or her computer (as he or she likely is quite often these days), then pop in for a chat. Your mate may try to conceal the computer screen from you. Keep in mind that you are on a mission. If you must, sit in his or her lap and take immediate control of the situation. Tell him or her that you have a site that he or she simply must see. Grab the mouse before your partner can react to close a window and navigate through the screen. If an online dating screen pops up, you have your answer.
3. Check his or her usage history. You can see which websites your partner has been visiting by doing a quick history search. Depending on the Web browser that you are using, this search can be completed in a number of different ways, but it will always show you a recent history of sites.
It is a terrible feeling to suspect that the person you love may be cheating. You will feel unwanted and taken advantage of. Therefore, be sure to put the matter to a quick rest. If you find that your partner is cheating, then resolve the situation in a way that is best for you. If you discover that you were wrongÂ â€” then youâ€™ve lost absolutely nothing in your quest to uncover the truth. After all, all actions are motivated. Try to work together to figure out what motivated the feelings of infidelity. The relationship will be stronger for it.
Claire Brent writes for the ez guideÂ 2 online dating site.